Let God be God in the Life of Your Child!

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I’ve got a special treat for you all today! We’ve got a guest blogger today who is near and dear to me. In fact, she knows me better than anyone else on earth! She’s served many roles in my life:  biggest cheerleader, spiritual mentor, first teacher, middle-of-the-night nurse, term paper editor, Sunday School teacher, conflict mediator, personal shopper, personal chef, camp counselor, travel agent, college “scholarship” financier, the list goes on!

 

If you haven’t guessed by now, our special guest is my mom, Sally.

Molly, Sally, and sister, Emmy

Her list of credentials is long but the only one that really matters is that she loves the Lord and has left me a legacy of faith and prayer! I’m always blessed by her teaching so I hope that you will be as well! (Before I turn the reigns over to her, I have to preface this by saying that I gave my mom complete freedom to choose a topic that God had laid on her heart and I did zero editing! After reading her words, I have to admit I was a little nervous about sharing them because she chose to write about ME! Good gracious, Mother! I should have known…)

 

From Sally…

 

One of the plethora of blessings in being a parent is learning lessons about God from our children.  One  major lesson I learned while raising my daughters was that God did not want me to rescue them from pain, rejection, and struggle. It is very hard to see our children suffer, and our instinct is to rush in and solve all problems.  I see it all the time as a teacher.  Women get in the middle of the spats their children have with classmates, and a minor childhood hurt becomes a long term grudge.  But God showed me very specifically one day through such an experience that Molly had that I needed to back off and let God be God.

 

Throughout her elementary years Molly experienced some serious bullying from a classmate.  You need to know that Molly was the sweetest little girl (still is), who was loved by all for her kindness and humility.  She was also one of the top students in her class in a time when students were given gold stars on a very prominent class chart.  Molly’s stars were always way ahead of everyone else’s.  So one classmate felt extremely competitive with Molly and pretty much tortured her because of it from first through fourth grades.  When Molly would come home from school with stories about what had happened, I would tell her that this little girl had some insecurities and that we needed to pray for her, but Molly was never to answer with anything but kindness and forgiveness.

 

Then one day I was really put to the test!  Molly came home with her best friend who was spending the night with us.  They had a fun time together as usual.  The next morning, the girl’s mother, who remains to this day one of my most treasured friends, picked her up to take her home.  As soon as the door closed behind them, Molly burst into tears.  Apparently this sweet friend had joined with the bully and one other girl the day before at school, following Molly around the playground yelling mean things at her.  Molly had kept that in all night, but let it all out that morning.  I prayed with her and reassured her that often girls can be mean, but I was proud of her for not answering in kind, and reminded her that we are to forgive.  However, my mother hackles were up and I was actually livid! It was a betrayal that stung!

 

When Molly left for school that day, I turned to my housework with a vengeance.  I was scheduled to have the entire Brownie troop at my house that evening (which included all three girls).  I didn’t want to have them in my home.  As I took out my anger on the kitchen floor, I thought, “I suppose she’d be popular if I let her get “F’s” in school!”  The LORD spoke almost audibly to me in that kitchen!  He very clearly said to me in my heart, “That’s your problem!  You want her to be popular.  Take your hands off her!  I am training her to be persecuted for my name’s sake!”

 

WHOA!  That stopped me in my tracks.  If Molly was to have her own personal walk of faith with God, she would need to see His faithfulness in ALL situations.  If I attempted to rescue her by jumping into the fray, she would be denied the experience of seeing the LORD as her Rock, her Rescuer, her Shelter, her Defense.  Jesus told us that, as His followers, we would face persecution, just as He did.

 

First, I would have to model forgiveness for Molly.  I asked the LORD to help me show love and forgiveness to these girls that night.  When they came, He more than answered that prayer.  Even though I was FEELING upset, He gave me the strength to ACT lovingly.  And the miracle was that, as I obeyed His command to love and forgive those who hurt us – yes, even those who hurt our children – He then gave me the feelings to match!  God actually worked in the situation and each of those girls remained friends with Molly, and I remained friends with the moms.  That was victory!  Molly learned that sometimes, even our dearest friends may disappoint us.  But if we are to be a friend we need to learn to forgive.  I learned that God needs to be God with my children!

 

Now, there are certainly times when it is perfectly appropriate for parents to advocate for their children.  But I’ve seen many parents rush in to their child’s defense too quickly and actually make matters worse.  Girls are particularly prone to meanness – and they love to get others in on the harassment.  Molly needed some toughening up, because it would prepare her for later betrayals that she went through in that nasty period of middle school and even in college!    Through each of these struggles, she experienced the faithfulness of God – as opposed to the toughness of her mother!

 

Thank you, Mom, for your words of wisdom! I am just at the outset of the school years with my own children, but I can already see how critical it is to remember that God is sovereignly weaving a plan for the lives of my kids. I need to remember and TRUST that nothing can touch them that hasn’t passed through His hands first! So, here is the question for today:

 

How has God used pain, rejection, and/or struggle in your own life
to shape you and grow you?

 

I hope you’ll join me back here tomorrow for Day 4 of Giveaway Week!

Blessings,

Comments

  1. Wow! Your Mom is so full of grace…

  2. Susan Schrum says:

    You are both such incredible witnesses…I am so proud to claim you as family and I am humbled by your examples of continued faith and wisdom. Love, Susie

  3. (I don’t know if you remember me, I bought some prayer cards from you for my Father for Fathers Day a year back on Etsy. SInce then I have followed your emails :). We loved the prayer cards and I think what you’re doing is great 🙂 I just happened to have a second to read this email this morning and i wanted to reply)

    Wow, what a beautifully written story from your mom! I can see her faith and love for God in her words. What a blessing to have a mom so submitted to the Holy Spirit. Her words were very needed for this young mom of 2!
    Like many, God has used many different struggles and pain in my life to create who I am today. Much of that pain and struggle unfortunately was caused my own stubborn will and sin. The main struggle and pain that comes to my mind today that God has used to shape me is my “strong” will.
    Since I was a child I had a will that burned like fire in me. I wanted to do it all by myself. I had an opinion and thought about everything (still do) ☺ . My mother was young and wounded from the life when she had me. She didn’t know the Lord. She had hoped that having me would help to heal her wounds. I’m sure it did for a while, but as I got older and my personality seemed to form, she felt rejected by me. This caused years and years of pain between us. The Lord found me when I was five years old on a Sunday night church service in southern California. I could feel my heart pounding and knew Jesus was who I needed! I couldn’t seem to “be good” on my own no matter how hard I tried! He captured my heart and began to change me. My parents provided for me physically and on the outward we seemed to have it all together, but there was so much pain in my heart. Fast forward 28 years, I am now a full time mother to 2 precious little children. Becoming a mother brought a lot of these thoughts and feeling to the surface for me. Over the last 4 years God has done some amazing healing in me, I truly feel “born again”. I am not the same person that I was. After I had shared some of my struggle with this pain In a Bible study a year ago, a pastor’s wife said to me “It had to be that way”. That thought was in my mind for weeks. What the enemy tried to use this to create harm in me, God in His amazing grace way, has turned it for good, “to accomplish what is being done now” (Gen 50:20)
    He has shaped my will and taught me to submit it to Him. Now that I am a mom, I am very aware of how much I need the Holy Spirit to guide each second that I mother. He has used my pain to create in me a heart to encourage women of young children and He has given me deep compassion for moms, like my own mother, who needed a godly friend to encourage them and point them to Jesus on this mothering journey. Recently, God has used this “strong” will of mine to step out in faith and start a brand new MOPS (Mother’s of Preschoolers) group in my community. Reaching out to mothers of young children and telling them about the grace and truth of Jesus!

    • Lauren,

      Of course I remember you and those special prayer cards we made for your dad with all the siblings names on them! Thank you SO much for sharing so beautifully and so personally! Your testimony brought tears to my eyes to read what the Lord has done in your life and how he has used your pain for His glory. Even in your words here, He is glorified! This is EXACTLY what I hope to see more of on ThroneOfGrace.com!! I pray the Lord will build a community of believers who will encourage one another, pray with and for one another, sharpen one another, and do it all with love and honesty! I am so excited for those mothers in your community who will be blessed both by your labor of love to get the MOPS group started and by your personal testimony and mentoring. Would you be okay with my adding a prayer request to our Prayer & Praise Monday to pray for you and your new MOPS program?

      Blessings,
      Molly 🙂

  4. Debbie Angle says:

    What a “MOM” story! As a seasoned mom I can relate to the mother bear reflex! Sally has been a part of my BSF group and an inspiration to all of us. She has given me a huge reminder that at any age, we must let go and let GOD.

    I enjoyed Sally’s sharing and can certainly relate.

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