I think the Lord loves to make me wait. I think that’s the case because I’m often not very good at it! When I’m ready to move forward with something, I’m ready right then! But, God often has other plans for me.
My husband and I have now been married for 11 ½ years, but before we met, I felt like I’d been waiting for someone my whole life. I had one boyfriend in high school who broke my heart and then after that, my prospects seemed dim. If anyone was ever interested in me (which happened rarely), I wasn’t very interested in them, and vice versa. And, then I was in my early 20’s and feeling my old maid status. Of course, I wasn’t an old maid by any means, but I still felt that way because almost everyone I knew had found someone, and I longed for someone, too.
Valentine’s Days were especially lonely. Sometimes I’d hang out with other single friends that day, but when they eventually found guys themselves, I was on my own. Waiting was so hard.
And, then I became a Christian. A couple of good friends witnessed to me and read the Bible with me over about a year and a half. God changed my heart, showed me my need for Him, and He saved me. What an amazing blessing that was! I had practically been an atheist until that time!
But, even with my new found love for God, I still longed for a husband. I poured my heart out to God to tell Him how much I wanted someone to love. I told a friend that I thought maybe God had let me have that boyfriend in high school just so I’d know what love was, but that I wasn’t ever going to find it again. My heart hurt, and my newbie Christian brain was trying to figure things out.
And, then I met Kyle. Kyle and I both worked for the same company making video games. According to him and a few other friends from there, he thought I was cute when he first saw me, but he wasn’t sure about how to approach me. Kyle asked a co-worker in my department about me and was told I was a “really cool chick”, but he still hesitated. And, then he woke up one morning and God showed him it was the right time to get to know me. He was a bit shy, so a couple of his friends schemed to get us to meet – they came down for a “tour” of my department (I worked in the sound department, and people would actually do that, so when they came down I was none the wiser! lol!), and asked me to come to lunch or dinner with a group of them and then brought Kyle along, too. We finally had a real first date after that, and the rest is history!
Unbeknownst to me, God had the perfect man in mind for me all along, but what I didn’t know was that God had to change my heart and make me a Christian first, so I would be the perfect woman for him! I had always thought I had to find someone for myself, but really I just had to wait on God’s timing and trust Him to bring the just right person to me. God’s timing was perfect and amazing!
Through the years, Kyle and I have been abundantly blessed in our married life. We strive to keep God at the center of our marriage – following Ephesians 5:22-33, and believing in faith that following God’s word is the key to a happy and successful married life.
“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church—for we are members of his body. ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
(Ephesians 5:22-33 NIV1984)
I am so thankful to God for Kyle, and I’m sure I appreciate him so much more than I might have ever done if I hadn’t had to wait so long for him!
“However, as it is written: ‘No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him…’”
(1 Corinthians 2:9-10 NIV1984)
I’m still waiting for other things, and the waiting can still be very hard, but I know that God’s timing is perfect.
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him,
who have been called according to his purpose.”
(Romans 8:28 NIV1984)
So, if this Valentine’s Day, you will still be waiting on the Lord for your special someone, remember that God is working through this trial to grow and refine you. Be thankful that God has given you this season, and faithfully trust that His timing is perfect, so that you will be blessed, even in the waiting, and so God will get all the glory!
“Dear friends, do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice that you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed.”
(1 Peter 4:12-13 NIV1984)